Trust issues, self-worthlessness and lack of self-love became a common issue in our generation today. We struggle in trusting other people. But do you know that trust must be built in small things? Trust is so broad and huge that its too irrational for us to say “I dont trust you!”. So, what does trust really means?
According to Charles Feltman, “Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the action of someone else.” Brene Brown defines Trust by breaking it down into components, so that we can easily examen which part of trust we lack of. She used the acronym B.R.A.V.I.N.G. In order for us to easily grasp it as a whole.

BRAVING
When we trust we are braving connection with someone.

Boundaries
Be clear about your boundaries and my boundaries and respect them. I trust you if you are clear about your boundaries and you are clear about my boundaries and you respect them. There is no trust without boundaries.

Reliability
It is when you do what you say you are going to do and not once, but, over and over again.
We have to be very clear with our limitations, so we dont take on so much that we come up short and dont deliver on our commitments.

Accountability
I can only trust if, when you commit a mistake you are willing to own it, apologize for it and make amends. I can only trust you if, when I make a mistake I am allowed to to own it, apologize and make amends.

Vault
What I share with you, you will hold in confidence. [Not only do I see that you hold confidences but in our relationship, I see that you acknowledged confidentiality. A lot of times we share things that are not ours to share as a way to hot-wire connection with a friend.
You respect my story and you respect other people’s Story.

Integrity 
Is Choosing courage over comfort. Choosing what’s right over whats fun, fast and easy. And Practicing you values not just professing your values

Non-Judgement
I can fall apart and be in struggle and ask for help without being judged by you, and you can fall apart apart and be in struggle and ask for help without being judged by me

Generosity
You can assume the most generous thing about my words, intentions and behaviorS and then check in with me. 

BRAVING is the Anatomy of Trust. Through these, we can easily point out which area we lose trust with others and of ourselves. It is good to ask ourselves which of these parts of trust do we struggle the most and reflect on it. 

If Trust, in our relationship is defined as “Braving the connections toward others.” In ourselves it is “Braving the connections toward self-trust, self-worthiness and self-love.” If you cant count on yourself, you cant ask other people to give you what you dont have. We have to start with the self trust. 

Therefore, Trust, is built through small events in our lives and in our relationship with other people, learn to observe and acknowledge it. Practice self-trust and start shining a Megawatt light to a soul.

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