"EPITOME OF SELF-CARE"

TO ALL THE GIRLS WHO HAVE BEEN CHEATED ON BEFORE

IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT 

it's not your fault if your man doesn't know the word "contentment". it's not your fault if your man wants to flirt with some random girls from school, work, neighborhood or even with your bestfriend. no girl can prevent her man from cheating. M.Soza said that " It was never your responsibility to change him. It was never your responsibility to teach him to become a man. It was never your responsibility to teach him to love you. You did what you could and that was always enough." that hit me and I stopped telling myself that it's my fault, and you should do it too. 

Have you heard of defense mechanism called Rationalization? It is when someone is creating false excuses for one's unacceptable feelings, thoughts or behavior. Well most of the guy who cheats was using this one. It's when they will tell you or friends stuff like "lagi na lang kaseng mainit ang ulo" , or "napakaselosa naman kase, lahat na lang pinagseselosan", some says "di na ako masaya sa kanya, hindi na sya kagaya ng dati nung nakilala ko sya". Or some excuses like "magkaibigan lang kame", "friendly lamg talaga sya" ,"hindi naman sya ganon klase ng babae",  "work-related lang yun" That's when your partner is rationalizing his infidelity. Sabi nga sa page ng 3am thoughts sa facebook, "you can't change someone who doesn't see an issue in their actions" and I think it's true. From being overprotective of their phone, changing his schedules, changing how they look and tell you that they just feel like it, being overly sensitive when mentioning the "other" girl's name, emotionally distancing himself from you, they also keep on telling you stuff which turned out to be one of his perfectly composed lie with his friends who knew about his cheating, and you know what's the worst part? they will tell you that it's your fault for whoever they have become. 

Forgive yourself for trusting and getting hurt but be thankful for learning that loyalty is everything and this time you choose to be loyal to yourself. Accept that a man can only be loyal if he wants to, and that is not your fault. 

Cheating is a choice and not a mistake. Always remember that.

Choose to love yourself first, always 💕

📸 ctto