Why telling someone that you are living better than the unfortunate is the worst advise ever?

Imagine a colleague, a friend , a family member or or just someone you know is going through something. Maybe, who’s just tired or didn’t ate her favorite cupcake and was sad… Or terribly sad.

Then you say,

"Don’t worry. You’ll get through it. Many people are dying right now and here you are crying over a petty thing."

I think, keeping those words to yourself would have been better.
 
If I would be sad or depressed, I would have preferred: I can’t imagine how tough it is for you. I can’t imagine what you are going through right now. I’m sorry about that. I wish I am there to hug you. I want to hug you right now. Do you need help? What kind of help do you need? 

Or just VALIDATE …

DON’T TRY TO OUTSMART someone who’s hurting.

It’s actually called TOXIC POSITIVITY.

Toxic positivity invalidates someone feeling and it will be unfortunate if that someone is pessimistic at the moment because that person will not find you helpful but TOXIC and maybe waste of his/her time.

The next time you find someone who’s down, depressed, sad or tired. Just hear them. They’re smart enough to know what to do. They just need to express how they feel or let off their steam.

Because we are not always happy. There will be cloudy days and rainy days. It will not always be sunshine. Not just them but you too.



Ecclesiastes 3:1‭-‬8 NIV

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.


Psalms 34:18 NIV

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

https://psalm.bible/psalm-34-18

*its okay not to be okay. We find comfort in God’s arms. We are just humans. We are allowed to feel what we feel. For we are powerless we are close to God. I think, sadness will bring reflection to other people. A reflection of powerlessness. We are not greater than God.



Proverbs 17:17 NIV

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.


Ecclesiastes 4:9‭-‬12 NIV

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.